PCS'ing with Autism: New State, New Rhythm

As our family prepares for our next military move this July, the to-do list feels endless. We have to prepare for movers to pack, goodbyes to say, and so many other decisions to make. But for us, one of the most important parts of this move is helping our children, especially Karson, find their rhythm in a brand new state.

Karson is our routine-loving, schedule-following sweetheart. He thrives on predictability and familiarity, so big changes can feel overwhelming. Here in Florida, he’s settled. He knows his routine, he’s built trust with his therapists, and we’ve worked hard to create a support system that works for him.

And now, we’re preparing to start all over again.

This isn’t our first PCS (Permanent Change of Station), and we know the drill. But no matter how many times we do it, there’s always that initial stress, especially when it comes to Karson. His big sister, Karlyn? She’s our social butterfly. She never meets a stranger, adapts quickly, and brings sunshine with her wherever she goes. Karson, on the other hand, needs a little more time and a whole lot more intentional planning.

The good news is, Karson usually adjusts well to changes within our home. A new house? New neighborhood? As long as we’re together as a family, he finds comfort. But it’s the things outside of the home like school, therapy, and routines that take more effort. That’s where our preparation becomes crucial.

We’ve learned over the years that being proactive is key. Finding the right school placement, understanding the available therapies, and making sure every provider is a good fit for Karson takes time and care. We never rush these decisions. Site visits, team meetings, and in-depth conversations are non-negotiable for us. We want to make sure the new environment can meet his needs and honor his IEP. We’re not just checking boxes; we’re finding a place where he can thrive.

Of course, there’s always a silver lining. Karson loves to travel. Seeing him excited about planes and car rides gives us a sense of peace. And while he may be slow to warm up to new teachers and therapists, we’ve seen growth. He’s adjusting quicker these days, and that progress means everything.

We also can’t say enough about the support we receive from the military and Tricare. Their early coordination efforts make a world of difference. Months before our move, we’re already in contact with our new case managers. Having a point of contact on the other side helps guide us through the process and reassures us that we’re not alone.

Moving with a child on the spectrum comes with challenges, but it also builds strength, resilience, and deeper connections within our family. We’re grateful for the resources, and we’re even more grateful for the small victories, each smile, each step forward, each new beginning.

Texas, here we come. We’re ready to find our rhythm TOGETHER.

Follow our journey as we navigate this next chapter of military life, autism, and everything in between.